This is definitely my biggest lesson of the past 10 years or so. It seems glaringly obvious now but caring for yourself well, including your body, soul, emotions and even boundaries is what will make others do the same. I was never that good at taking care of myself, and oh guess what I had plenty of relationships that reflected this right back to me. It was so much easier to blame the other person in all these cases then to acknowledge the truth that I mustn't have had much value for myself either.
But in taking responsibility in it, we allow ourselves to gain back our power and begin to sow the seeds of change within our own values. As Janis Joplin says- 'you are what you settle for.' So lets allow this year by the year of self care, self respect and self love.